‘ Are you single? How long have you been single? Are you happy about it? What do you think about your ‘being single?’ Those are some of the questions I would like to address to those single people out there. The reason I’m writing this article is because I feel that I’ve been surrounded by a lot of single people and they are dealing it with different attitudes. Thus, I come up with a conclusion, there are different types of people who are being single.
‘ However before I continue, let me describe a bit what I mean by single. Single does not mean lonely. People who are engaged in relationships can still feel lonely. There are three types of loneliness: emotional loneliness, social loneliness, and time and space loneliness. A solo single website explains that Emotional loneliness comes from the absence of a close emotional relationship. Even the most socially active person can suffer from this type of loneliness when his/her social network is comprised of superficial acquaintances. While social loneliness means that you are absent from a social network. You don’t have any social life out there. The time and space loneliness means that you are lonely because of time and distance without necessarily not having friends nor social network, and it could be the result of your work, lack of technology, etc. So, those are different types of loneliness, and not single.
‘ What I mean by single is people who are not in a relationship, either marriage nor dating for some amount of time. Thus, single means not being engaged in a romantic relationship. Now, by this definition, I shall explore types of single people out there.
1. I’m looking but waiting for the right one single
This type of single is usually in the marriage oriented thinking, or at least they are tired of fooling around, or for some because of their religious belief of what a relationship is. There’s a big chance that this type of single has been in a number of past relationships and now is ready to move one with a ‘long-term relationship’. They will be looking for the right person but not being hasty about it. They will have people who are interested in them, but they will not be bothered if it doesn’t have a possible future with them. In short, this type of single person is looking for the right person for a long-term relationship.
2. I’m picky single
A person with this type of ‘being picky single’ are usually the good looking ones. He/She is the popular person in wherever he/she is. They are the ones who have the opportunity to choose because they have options. This type would select their future partner based on many criteria, but mostly on looks. They would probably choose to remain single because of their chances of fooling around. They would not officially date someone, but in fact they are seeing a lot of people who are interested in them. They could remain single in a long period and still seeing a lot of people, or they could engage in many short-term relationships.
3. I need my space single
This type of single usually just came out from a disastrous relationship or had a bad life experience. They need their space and will close off their interest on romantic relationship. They are enjoying their time of being single just for themselves. They would do things that they didn’t do when they are still in a relationship with someone, like traveling, shopping, building their career, etc. They would not bother to think about seeing someone or seriously dating anyone. This is the type of single who doesn’t want to be ‘not single’.
4. I’m enjoying my alone time single
This type is slightly different from ‘I need my space single’. They are not necessarily coming out from a bad relationship. They just want to be single and enjoy their time of being one. A person with this type of single usually has a lot of social networks and activities. This suits a career-oriented person type. This type will enjoy some romantic companies but will never officially date them. They are usually more mature in age and don’t think about being involved in a relationship in the near future.
5. I’m desperate single
A person with this type would put ‘I’m looking for anything I can get’ status on his/her facebook profile. They will try so hard yet failed all their efforts. This type remains single not by choice, but by ‘nature’s force’. They will try to hook up with so many people and always complain about their loneliness. People with this type is either never been single in a long period of time or never dated anyone yet. You can easily recognize them by their hopeless attitude towards other people that they think would suit them. Sometimes they don’t think clearly anymore about the person they are going to date just because they want to end their singleness.