On October 12th 1980, 10 am, a boy was born at Pringadi Hospital, Medan. Twenty eight years later, on the same day of his birth, which is Sunday, he is already a man. He feels that he has been blessed in so many ways through life experiences, friends, families, good and bad times. All those learning has made him a grown up. At least, he feels as one.
Yes, to be a grown up, an adult, mature. They are challenging words. Lately, I feel that I need to rethink what is the meaning of being mature? I felt challenged by a very close friend’s statement, “You behave as if you are still a teenager, you have not grown up!” Even though she was jokingly saying it (which I think she was quite serious), her question struck me, what made her say that? Am I still not a grown up?
Well, this is not an apologetic essay or some sort, but it got me thinking, what is the meaning of being mature? . Wikipedia mentions that, “Adulthood can be defined in terms of biology, psychological adult development, law, personal character, or social status. These different aspects of adulthood are often inconsistent and contradictory. A person may be biologically an adult, and have adult behavioral characteristics but still be treated as a child if they are under the legal age of majority. Conversely one may legally be an adult but possess none of the maturity and responsibility that define adult character.” I think I can safely claim that what she criticized was my adult character.
My definition of “being an adult” is: being independent – yet not selfish and still listens to other’s opinion – in taking decisions and choosing life directions, able to live and enjoy life, and being responsible for every actions that he takes.
Okay, I hang out with some friends who are younger than my age (and some even dare to call me Om!). I like discussing not-important topics. I like throwing jokes (even most of my friends claimed that I’m not as funny as I think I am). I think those are the reasons why I can be seen as immature. However, eventhough I think I am impulsive, yet I like to plan my life ahead. I like taking risk while always count the probability. So, I am still an adult based on my own definition of being an adult.
My line of work demands a serious type of person, but I can’t see why seriousness can’t go along with fun-ness. I can be serious at times; and become the joker when tension is up. I think my art and fun side is wrestling with my systematic side, and I tend to mix them both. I know its not the best formula for everyone because maybe some would prefer seeing me as a serious person, but I like being who I am. I think my reflection is how I can have fun in what I’m doing yet looks like an adult.
Turning 28 means God has led my path so far, and by faith I’m sure that God will keep on leading me on God’s way. Thus, I am sure that God will equip me with the needed tools and knowledge to serve God, including on being an adult! Happy birthday to me!
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